The church is perfect…. until the people show up

Yesterday on Facebook, my cousin’s husband posted a link to an article titled 15 Reasons I Left the Church.  Interesting article discussing reasons why this particular woman left the church and cited a study on why 20 somethings are choosing to leave the church.

Let me state up front – some of the reasons in that article, I completely agree with; others I completely disagree with.  But I felt strongly enough on this topic to write about it here and open it up for discussion.

A brief history on my church experience:  I was not raised in a Christian home. My parents were not wild party animals, but they also did not regularly attend church.  They always stated they wanted me to be able to choose my religion.  My grandmother was a Christian and regularly attended church.

Growing up, especially as I got older, I naturally questioned why my parents said or did what they did.  Why we had the house rules we did.  What were they using as their base or guideline for what they believed, or didn’t believe.  With my grandmother, I knew her convictions came from the Bible.

It wasn’t until 1988 (just a few days after my divorce) that I was born again during an altar call in a large local non-denominational church service I had attended with a business acquaintance.  It was a life changing event, and I know fully that I was saved on that day and made the right choice to follow Christ.  What was not quite as easy was living life and learning about Jesus, the Bible, etc.. after that. [Read more...]

Are your manners showing?

Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated our 19th wedding anniversay a couple days early (it’s on Valentine’s Day) and we took our three youngest children (10, 11 & 12) with us to a movie and out to dinner at Cracker Barrel.

We had been sitting at the table just a few minutes, still trying to decide what to order, had already gotten our drinks and the waitress came up to me and said: “Your children are so well behaved, well mannered and patient!” I smiled, said thank you – but wow, are they really behaving so different from any other children their age to warrant an out of the way compliment on their behavior? I would hope any pre-teen child would have enough self-control and manners to be able to go to a restaurant without issue or incident. [Read more...]